My grandfather died in August of 1999 and I'm not sure where he is buried.  I've been trying to find out the information on my own and was looking his name up in a cemetery in the city he died in.  He wasn't there...but one of his children (my aunt) was.  All I've ever known about my aunt Mary is she died in a car accident when she was young.  No one in the family really talks about it much - especially my dad.  She was closest in age to him, and I believe they were kindred spirits - she was the wild child/rebel in the family and my dad is not a wild child per se, but he is definitely a free thinker and very unlike most of his siblings.  I think he was hit hardest (as far as the siblings go) when she died.  I had no idea she was buried in the same city my grandfather is buried in.  I've requested a photo from Find A Grave...and next time I'm in the area (it's a 3  hour drive from here), I can leave flowers.  I'm going to have to ask about my grandfather...perhaps I can leave flowers for two.